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06/06/2012 03:57pm EDT | Updated August 6, 2012. I should seize the opportunity and enjoy it. That couldn’t be further from the truth! I was unable to shake the feeling that I was inadequate as a parent and wife. I thought it would be so much more “relaxing” to be able to stay home. There are days I am jealous of my husband and the time he gets to spend outside of our house, even if he's just going to work.

Yikes. We are and being a mom IS work. There is no happiness substitute in the entire world for making my 2-year-old son laugh hysterically as I chase him around the playground, or playing catch with my son in the backyard after school. My career can wait but for now I am enjoying the best job I ever had. INTP. Somedays, I really hate being a stay-at-home mom.

I wanted to stay home.

However, as your friendly cyber-space millennial stay-at-home mom, I felt that it was only right to highlight a few misconceptions about life as a stay-at-home mom. What to do when you hate being a stay at home mom. The one thing I noticed was that many people assumed because I chose to stay at home with my children that I did not have any dreams or aspirations for a career. Parenting Isn't An Easy Job, But Some Parents Complain About Being Sleep Deprived And Having So Much Responsibility.

Follow along as Jennifer Pinarski shares her experiences about giving up her big city job and lifestyle to live in rural Ontario with her husband, while staying home to raise their two young children. I’m always asked “well you stay home.. so what happens when they’re older” – it never, ever fails.
We live in a society where we are ripped apart for admitting when we are struggling or if God forbid, we aren't grateful for every second we get to spend with our kids. Raising kids is a pretty big accomplishment – I don’t understand why it’s diminished to, “oh, you get to stay home all day, you should do something else, too!” Hopefully this makes sense – I love the “Wonder Woman” image of a SAHM who raises kids, cooks organic meals, keeps a spotless house AND runs her own business, but in reality, I think it puts a huge stress on moms and takes our focus away from why we really chose to stay at home. The self-imposed pressure to be everything to everybody left me completely disconnected from myself. I’d love to read it! If I could afford a full-time nanny, I would have a whole gaggle of children.

My house is an absolute mess because I’m home with two rowdy boys all day! Your husband loses respect for you because you’re just a ” stay at home mom”. We're all doing what's best for our own families. And that's all that anyone needs to care about.

Emotions are not rational, but they certainly are real.

My son was a colicky, high needs infant who screamed whenever he was not being held or fed. They're just different on each side. Which is a tough standard to live up to. I wouldn't say stay-at-home moms are handing out Xanax like candy, but it's definitely carried around in more than a few handbags. Sometimes it’s so … Somedays, I really hate being a stay-at-home mom. But I did choose to be a SAHM because I want to be present and savor his childhood. She is raising her two sons with her husband in a cabin in the subdivision. LONG. I am a student but I do online and stay home. I love being a mom and I want to be there for my kids but I also love being useful to other people and feel like I am contributing to our family finances as well.”, “I was that person, I was a full time working mom until getting laid off. Many people like to believe that women who have decided to stay home full-time fall somewhere on the invisible ‘motherhood spectrum’ between extremely privileged and too attached to their kids. Does 'What to Expect When You're Expecting' get pregnancy right? Toothless grin as salary, anyone?”, “We live in a high cost-of-living area, so some friends assume that since I don’t work we must be on a tight budget and can’t afford certain luxuries (designer clothes, girls only weekend trip, Disney annual passes, etc)”.

They forget about the kids that are here making messes quicker than I can pick up.”, “Because I am a SAHM (who also homeschools), I’ve had people accuse me of being lazy, TOO attached to my kids, & making comments when I spend money on anything at all.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) to be specific. It's a girl thing. But make no mistake -- SAHMs are also subtly competitive. So without further ado, check out these 30 misconceptions about life a stay-at-home mom. I was fortunate in the sense that we could get by on one income.

What?!

This was a strange option for someone with a paralyzing germ phobia, but working in a bacteria-laced building with 40 filthy pre-schoolers was preferable to the lonely isolation and exhausting mental torture I faced at home. I worried about diaper rash, eczema, fevers and choking. Staying at home became far more stressful than working. I totally fit that bill.

You're not allowed to say you don't know if you can do it, you don't know if you'll survive, you're going crazy, you want out.

With my precarious mental state, working just gives me what I need. Thank you for reminding us ALL that SAHMs are all working just as hard .

Last summer, I wasn't ready to just jump in full-time right off the bat, so I searched for a "baby step"-- something part-time or freelance to get me going in the right direction. This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform. Good Housekeeping participates in various affiliate marketing programs, which means we may get paid commissions on editorially chosen products purchased through our links to retailer sites. I am not part of the mommy wars. It is so sad how much society and other mothers judges each other.

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Is going back to work full-time really the answer to my ultimate fulfillment and happiness as a mom? Sure, my husband contributed to the housekeeping, but it was never enough. Our free bootcamps will help you take control of your money, cut your costs or get out of debt. I love this idea that a SAHM’s house is clean. To just go for it. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish. A job provided everything that was lacking in domestic life. I could have gone back to work.

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